Your preferred format
Notice what you welcome in shared time.
Make time together easier to choose
Shared Time Preference Test
You have some time with a partner, relative or friend. Would you most welcome a conversation, an activity you do together or relaxed company without a busy agenda?
12questions
4minutes
3shared-time preferences
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Explore what you enjoy in shared time
Being together can mean talking, doing something or enjoying calm company. Notice what you prefer and leave room for the other person's wishes and energy.
A useful question
Ask what the other person would enjoy.
A simple proposal
Choose a realistic plan that fits both people's energy.
02
Three formats you can combine
These are preferences, not measures of closeness. A single visit can include all three, and what each person wants can change.
Conversation
Make room for an attentive conversation and exchange.
Shared activity
Do an enjoyable activity together with a manageable plan.
Quiet company
Enjoy relaxed presence without pressure to talk or stay busy.
How your shared-time profile is calculated
Each of 12 choices adds two points to a format. Percentages summarise your selections, not the quality of a relationship.
- 1We count your choices for each of the three approaches.
- 2The highest total selects your main profile; another positive score can provide a secondary approach.
- 3Tied scores stay tied in the bars. A fixed order selects the heading when needed.
Think of ordinary time with someone close
- Think of a partner, relative or close friend.
- Choose what you would welcome, not what seems like the most impressive plan.
- Imagine both people can say what they want and decline a proposal.
FAQ
Questions about spending time together
This original BrainApps questionnaire compares three formats for spending time with someone close. Use the profile as a starting point for discussing what each person would enjoy today.
Does this measure how close we are?+
No. It compares your chosen formats of shared time, not affection or relationship quality.
Can quiet company still include talking?+
Yes. Here it means there is no pressure for a long conversation or organised activity. You can still speak when you want.
What if we want different formats?+
Compare what you would enjoy today. You can combine a short conversation, a small activity and a quiet period, or choose another occasion.
Do I need a romantic partner?+
No. You can think of a close friend or relative you spend ordinary time with.
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