Your usual gesture
See whether you reach for an action, attention or words.
Make your care easier to notice
How You Show Care Test
Someone you care about has a busy day, a small worry or good news. Do you first offer practical help, give them your attention or put your support into words?
12questions
4minutes
3ways to show care
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Understand your first way of offering support
Care can appear in a useful action, a moment of attention or words that recognise a person. Explore your usual gesture and what the other person might prefer.
The other person's preference
Notice that your first choice may not be the support they want today.
A gesture to try
Choose a small action and ask how it lands.
02
Three gestures you can combine
These approaches describe your first choice, not how much you love someone. A friendship, family relationship or partnership can include all three.
Practical help
Offer a specific useful action that the other person wants.
Time and attention
Make room to listen or spend unhurried time together.
Encouraging words
Express appreciation, recognition or encouragement in words.
How your care profile is calculated
Each of the 12 answers adds two points to an approach. Percentages show the share of choices for that gesture, not the quality of a relationship.
- 1We count your choices for each of the three approaches.
- 2The highest total selects your main profile; another positive score can provide a secondary approach.
- 3Tied scores stay tied in the bars. A fixed order selects the heading when needed.
Think of someone close to you
- You can think of a partner, relative or close friend.
- Choose what you would offer first, not the grandest gesture.
- Think of ordinary moments rather than one exceptional event.
FAQ
Questions about showing care
This original BrainApps questionnaire compares three ways of showing care in everyday relationships. Use the profile to choose a gesture and check whether it is welcome.
Is this a test of how much I love someone?+
No. It compares the gestures you chose in these situations, not the strength of your feelings or the quality of a relationship.
Do I need to be in a romantic relationship?+
No. You can answer with a close friend, relative or partner in mind.
What if my gesture is not what the person wants?+
Ask what would be useful or welcome before making a bigger gesture. Their preference can differ from yours and can change with the situation.
Can I show care in more than one way?+
Yes. You can offer useful help, share time and say what you appreciate. The profile suggests a starting point, not a fixed role.
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